So the divorce is behind you, technically anyway. And legally things are in order. Now it’s time to focus on you — the new independent, single (possibly dating!) you, both emotionally and physically. In this post we’re gonna get physical and beautify that world of yours…
1. Turn Off the TV
It’s tempting to let the television become your best ally and crash out on the sofa every night with a bottle of wine or pack of beers, but it’s not a healthy longterm coping strategy. You can gain weight, feel depressed, and isolate yourself from the great new life that is just around the corner.
Television is fine for those moments when you have disconnect or are exhausted after a long day’s work, but overall it’s not a good habit to get into. So force yourself to develop hobbies, make new friends, reconnect with who you are, and get out there in the world. Make your world, don’t simply watch it on television and wish it could be yours.
2. Update your home decor
Now the television is off you have lots of time to make your home environment warm, inviting, and nurturing. Decorate in your favorite style, and invest in creating a space that reflects your aspirations and dreams. Your home environment will affect your mood and mental state, so it’s important to fill it with inspirational images and colors —humans are visual beings.
Now you are free, it’s the time to carefully craft a home environment to make a statement about who you truly are. This will help you move forward as you begin your new life in an inspiring home. Need ideas? Pinterest and other sites like that have LOTS to choose from and many can be done on a budget or DIY. Doing DIY — or even just a lick of paint — can be highly therapeutic and build your confidence, it’s also something you can involve friends in. So go forth and explore your options.
3. Get a New Do
Go get a new haircut. Do something you’ve thought about doing, but were too afraid to try for fear of ridicule by your spouse. Don’t worry if you don’t like it — its just hair and it’ll grow back. Depending on what you’ve had done it can be re-cut or re-dyed. But the thrill of trying something new and being brave enough to wear it proudly will help you grow stronger and prouder as you build your new life.
Better still, go to the beauty counter too. Check out some new pamper bits of make up if that’s your thing. Very often these stands will give you a bit of treatment completely free. Especially if it’s quiet during mid-week. Then head off to explore the perfume section and give yourself a generous spray. Got a friend available? Meet for a glass of wine and turn it into a day/night out.
4. Revamp your wardrobe
Out with the old. Go through your wardrobe and throw out everything that doesn’t fit or doesn’t look good on you. Then buy a few key pieces that flatter your figure and some accessories to mix and match. It’s better to have a small wardrobe of clothes that make you feel great, than a large wardrobe of things you don’t feel good in. You may have lost or gained weight while going through your divorce, so you’ll need to adjust to this change.
If you’ve gained weight there are plenty of flattering plus-size options available; for both men and women. If you don’t know how to shop for your body shape and size, get help from a friend whose style you admire or an in-store attendant.
Looking good is about feeling good. It’s about ownership; reclaiming your self worth and self esteem from the outside in, whilst at the same time working on the inside out!